Valentine's Day is upon us and there are so many people out there who dislike it because they are "single". A long time ago I used to be one of those people, BUT that all changed when I decided to celebrate what the day actually is...a day to honor love, the love within each and everyone of us. If you are finding yourself having negative emotions towards Valentine's Day keep in mind that it can be an abundance blocker. Work on teasing out why the negative emotion is there. Journal with it, and see if you can get to the root of where it is coming from so that it can be released for healing.
A great question to reflect upon is, Do you love yourself? that can be a difficult question for people IF one chooses to go beyond a surface response of "yes". Do you truly love yourself? With regards to this Valentine's Day topic...If a person truly loves him or herself, they do not give their power away to another person causing them to feel incomplete because they do not have a "special someone" or a specific person in their life. Love is within all of us and it should be celebrated every day. Valentine's Day is a day to remember that. So I encourage you to embrace the day, every day, shifting your focus from outside of you to inside of you. Get closer to yourself this Valentine's Day.
Some suggestions of things to do this Valentine's Day:
* Get together with other singles and not for the purpose of "hooking up" or "meeting someone". Get together with others to celebrate yourself and the love other people have for themselves. Celebrate friendships and how you are all uniquely wonderful.
*Have a "single's" only party! Once again, not for the purpose of "hooking up" or meeting someone. It's so much fun getting together with other people who are in a similar situation. You can share dating stories, watch movies, play cards/board games, cook some fun amazing food, ect.
*Make it a night of action or comedy movies! I always enjoyed watching hunky men and maybe having some ice cream too! Treat yourself! Watch a movie that will make you happy and not sad.
*Self-care appointments. Make an appointment to get a self-care treatment done like going to a spa, get a massage, or maybe even getting some acupuncture. There are so many wonderful self-care services available. Treat yourself to some relaxation.
*Buy yourself flowers. Flowers are very therapeutic and you don't need anyone to buy them for you. When you buy them for yourself you can actually get the ones you want. Let the scent of the flowers uplift you and cleanse your energy. You will have them to lift and energize the space around you while doing the same for yourself.
*Do something spiritual. This could be: shopping at your local metaphysical store, taking a yoga class, doing a meditation, create a vision board, journal, etc.
One of my favorite things to do is to mail valentine's to all my nieces and nephews! The younger ones get stickers in their valentine's day cards while the older ones get two $1.00 lotto tickets. It makes me feel good and it's a way to show them that Valentine's day isn't just for "lovers". All relationships are valued and appreciated this holiday season.
If you are finding yourself struggling with relationships or feeling a lack of self-love check out my coaching packages. This is an area I feel strongly about because I went through it myself. Once upon a time I was in a cycle of dating that was toxic and taking a toll on my soul. Fortunately, I was able to get myself out of it through various strategies and behavioral modifications. The answer is not the same for everyone, but I was able to crack the code for myself and can help guide you to do the same. I hope you all have a wonderful month of celebrating love, and regardless of your status find a deeper connection to yourself this Valentine season.
Right now seems to be an extreme time of discomfort if we are not on track with our goals. God and the universe are reorganizing things and creating space in whatever form that may come for you. There is a method to the madness though, and for some those answers will not be clear. However, God and the universe are pushing for you to get clear right now. This may come through sudden shifting of things around you and/or someone providing some truth for you to look at. Be easy on yourself and others during this time, because it is leading you to clarity for your soul here on earth. Don't buy into illusions and work things out based off of what feels right to you. Talk things out with a trust worthy person who understands how your mind works. This can work wonders for helping you to process out whatever it is that you are going through.
This past fullmoon didn't hit me until today. Usually I feel the affects of it a few days before it is at full capacity, but with this one it has been different. It's about two days after and it was sparked by a conversation my boyfriend had with me regarding what I was doing with my life for 2018. Lets just say, sometimes we cannot see beyond our own mindset and need to take a time out. The conversation was upsetting despite the good intentions and caring approach. He put it in terms of a pruning a tree...sometimes you have to cut off the dead parts! It was a great analogy, but I had a difficult time seeing what must go. I love every part of what I am doing, and I love the advice I give out to people. I knew there was a reason for the conversation and I took time to process it out instead of getting worked up too much :).
Eventually I spoke with another close friend who thinks like me, and I figured out how to streamline things. Sometimes it's just a matter of talking things out. As soon as I did this, and committed to a plan, I could feel relief. It felt like I untied a knot that has been nestled inside of me. Right now, I am being asked to clear space within my life because I have too much going on that's throwing me off balance. I need to start making sacrifices because my energy is being spread too thin. Through this epiphany I have had today, a new opportunity that I had been seeking presented itself. This opportunity will take a lot of time and energy so now I have the space for it. I tell you this story, because it is when we release something...we make space for the new to come in!
What are you releasing with this fullmoon? Are you streamlining things too?
Happy New Year!! and Hello Cancer fullmoon! Have you been feeling it? I sure have, but you don't have to let those energies define you. Push through whatever energies are going on right now by recognizing how you are feeling and getting to the bottom of what the emotion is. Take time to go inward to get clear on what it is that your body is communicating to you, but still take action towards bettering your situation. What is coming up to be released? What needs to change? How are you going to move forward? Do you have a clear goal in mind for what you want for yourself?
One way to get clear is to write about what your goal looks like. You can do this by simply starting to write about your goal. What does your goal look, feel, smell, taste, and act like? Allow yourself to get super detailed. Even if you don't know what it looks like, just start writing and allow the vision to come to you. Doing this every day for at least 10 minutes can really get you manifesting outcomes quicker! It's a great tool for getting you into the energy of what you want. Feel your dream...this is what will bring it to you.
Vision Boards are another helpful tool to use. This can be a powerful tool so I strongly encourage you to do so with caution along with the excitement. Really allow yourself to get clear about whatever you post on your Vision Board. What is the feel of the image you are posting? What are the people doing in the photo? Are they happy? How are they standing (are they walking away or facing each other)? Does the person in the photo have their back to you? These are just some of the things to think about then you are posting a photo on your Vision Board. They have a eerie way of playing out sometimes. If you have words, how do those words make you feel? Do they uplift and inspire you? When working with a vision board, you want to have it somewhere you will see it as well as allowing the images to get you in the energy of what you want. If you want to go to a beach, you have to feel like you are at the beach. What does that feel like? If you want to take on a larger role at work, what does that role feel like? Live that energy every day for as long as you can. Just 5 or 10 minutes a day can start to shift things. Remember, the images are placing a thought and feeling into you mind...use ones that feel good.
One last tip, be around other people who are in the vibration of where you want to be. If you want be healthier, go places where healthy people are. Surround yourself with healthy friends. If you want to grow your business, be around people who have successful businesses. Go to workshops and seminars where those people go. Learn from them and be in that energy of having a successful business. Be around others who inspire you to live at a higher level/energy. Also, be mindful of what people bring your energy down, and what people add to your energy. Get away from any energy vampires in your life. You will thank yourself for it later. If you want a loving relationship, nurture the relationship that you have with yourself. Don't go seeking love. You must have it first to attract it!
Do what you need to do for yourself. The most effective way to reach what you want is to take time to work on your energy along with taking action towards your goals. Your energy and a commitment to yourself is the most important thing. Healthy selfishness is not a bad thing, it's necessary for a healthy happy life. When you are happy and healthy you are more effective at what you do.
I am a person who has been learning to open my awareness to what God is communicating to me through various means while tuning into my intuition. Trusting in divine timing and learning to flow isn't always pretty. We can honor our feelings and find healing through taking a look at the messiness, and working through it with as much grace and ease as we can. Sometimes a good piece of chocolate is necessary :)